A woman does not have to be a muse for a man

There is an opinion that the success and reputation of a man depend on how much his other half inspires and motivates him. Family psychologist Victoria Dmitrieva questions this position, because

- thus, a woman begins to perceive herself exclusively as an "inspirer" of a man, does not set herself other tasks;

- indecisive men, thanks to this opinion, justify themselves: "I'm not lazy, but my wife / girlfriend does not inspire me!";

- a woman unwittingly takes responsibility for the life/success/well-being of her partner.

The psychologist noted that some men lack determination because they are often criticized in the family. And it is useless to inspire and motivate others until they themselves want to change something in their lives. To achieve something, you need to do something. If a man is inactive, then it is not the woman's fault.

Victoria Dmitrieva told how you can support a man who often faces criticism (and this can be done not only by the second half, but also by friends and relatives):

- Accept him for who he is.

Rich and not so, Full of energy and tired. Acceptance gives a person strength;

- Cancel comments. "Introduce a family fine - 100 rubles for a critical remark. Put them in a piggy bank and transfer them to charity at the end of the month. So your criticism will be at least some benefit," the expert recommends;

- Praise. Even when he didn't do anything special. Thanks to this, a man's self-esteem will increase;

- Achieve something yourself. Being engaged in your own development, you will not pay increased attention to how successful your chosen one is every day, you will be much more interested in your own success. In addition, two successful, enthusiastic personalities will be more interesting with each other.