Psychologist told how to recognize a scammer boyfriend on the Web

The current reality encourages many women to search for a life partner on the Internet. There are thousands of profiles on dating sites, but is it worth trusting the information they contain? Not always, because now the web is full of scammers looking for victims and scammers looking for material gain. Family psychologist Lana Lanskaya explained how to recognize them.

Mirror Man

Scammers are men who, firstly, when they meet online, actively inspire women with the seriousness of their intentions (he is looking for a wife and mother of his future children, he does not need novels), and secondly, they "mirror" women's preferences. Such a gentleman listens to the same music as you, loves the same films, the same color, reads the same blogs ... After some time after meeting, he already passionately confesses his love and assures that he does not notice anyone but you.

“It’s too good to be true. It looks like another superficial fanfiction, but not real life at all. It’s not that there is no place for easy love stories - there is, of course, but on a bookshelf,” says the psychologist.

Through the ears

Another type of Internet cavaliers to stay away from are the pick-up artists. Pick up - techniques for seducing women and achieving sexual success, which these gentlemen use.

Pick-up showers you with compliments - after all, a woman loves with her ears! (and maybe humiliate) to bring you to the most vivid emotions; flattering and constantly looking for opportunities to touch you. By hook or by crook, a pikaper persuades a woman to have sex, and then disappears without a trace, getting in touch again after a week or more.

“He tries so hard that it even scares,” the specialist clarifies.

Nothing personal, just money

There is another category of online "boyfriends", communication with which often ends very sadly for women. They are marriage scammers. Their goal is not love, but the money of a woman who has fallen in love with him. And not one. More women, more money.

"he is engaged in a purely male business - for example, a retired colonel or a ruined businessman;

a tragedy happened to him (spoiler: a lie), and he is immediately ready to dump the solution of his troubles on you;

showers you with compliments and presents (the question is, where does he get the money for them from then?);

and he also urgently, very urgently needs money, but he will return, of course, even more, ”the psychologist lists the traits of a swindler.

What to do?

How not to fall for the tricks of these personality types? Safety rules are simple, you should not neglect them. Carelessness can lead to - at best - material losses and "killed" self-esteem. And at worst ... However, let's not talk about the bad:

- when registering on a dating site, use an unnecessary email address or create a new account, but do not indicate those mailboxes that you often use. This will help hide your personal data;

- get a spare phone number so as not to give the main one to new acquaintances from the Web. So you will avoid telephone terror from obsessive gentlemen;

- communicate (and meet in reality) only with those who have a real photo in their profile;

- dates - only in crowded places and only during daylight hours;

- do not give new acquaintances the address.

Of course, you should not completely abandon dating on the Internet. But do not forget about caution when entering into a virtual dialogue with a man.