The psychologist told what to look for when choosing a partner

The natural tendency to mistrust or negative experience in past relationships makes us look at potential partners with special care, carefully study a person’s behavior in an attempt to understand whether it will be possible to build a harmonious relationship with him.

Psychologist Anna Devyatka claims that there are marker phrases by which one can recognize a deliberately unsuitable chosen one.

One of those phrases is "I'll do anything for you." Since "everything" is a loose concept, you need to find out what a man means by this. Often, with the help of this phrase, men try to get women to do what they need, but not women. And also, when saying "I will do everything for you," the gentleman may mean only taking out the garbage or something else just as simple.

Another phrase that betrays a manipulator with his head is "If anything, I will defend my woman in front of everyone." She seems quite harmless and draws in the fantasies of a woman the image of a gentleman-protector. But not everything is so simple.

“So he projects his usual way of life. He is used to a situation of conflict in which he needs to defend himself and his partner. Perhaps in front of his parents, or maybe his ex-wife, who enters the house,” the psychologist clarifies.

When choosing a life partner, it is important not to ignore your needs and "selection criteria". But it is equally important to listen to a potential chosen one, talk to him, and not be afraid to ask questions. This will help to better understand each other and see the number of common interests and views. The specialist advises to allocate enough time to get to know the person you like properly. The optimal period is a year and a half.