Unyielding: how to learn not to respond to manipulation

There is no greater wealth in life than peace of mind. Manipulation is one of the most powerful factors that break this peace and cloud your picture of the world. Each of us is more or less vulnerable to manipulators How to remain yourself and not succumb to other people's attempts to lead you astray, Alexander Korol, a Russian writer and philosopher, will tell.

It is important to remember one of the main principles - you cannot react to everything and agree with what they are trying to impose on you. "There must be a logical chain in every action. For example, if a person tries to advise you on a shampoo, he must explain why his offer is better than your choice. It is important here not to rush to make decisions, but to think over and weigh all the pros and cons. Do not you should be embarrassed to ask a person to explain what caused his choice, "says the expert. Through questions and attempts to clarify the situation, you break the unconscious chain of manipulation.

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"Often people unconsciously offer something to each other, not realizing that this can be a suppression of someone else's idea and will. For example, your friend says that this restaurant is terrible, you tell your friend about this, and she tells her friend. In As a result, no one gets to the heart of the matter - a chain of manipulation begins, "explains Alexander Korol.

In order not to lose yourself and not succumb to manipulation, you should always ask questions, try to find out more than you are offered. You should always be aware of what the person wants from you. Such a serious approach can help not only in everyday matters, but also in work.

Sobriety of thinking

Before you start any business or invest in the proposed idea, you must delve into the meaning of the proposal. Alexander Korol offers several universal questions that can clarify any situation and "isolate" attempts to incline you in any direction from it:

- Why can't the people who suggested it implement it themselves? - - - Why do they need / need me?
- Why invest in this (or other resources)?
- What will I get as a result?

According to the expert, one of the powerful catalysts that manipulators use to achieve their goal is pity. Describing any situation, the manipulator will definitely say that without your participation, one of the participants in the situation will suffer; will create the appearance that someone’s well-being depends on you (of the team at work / close people / homeless animals / planet - underline as necessary).

Look soberly at such attempts to bring you to emotions (it can be not only pity, but also, for example, fear or guilt) and do not react to such provocations. You are not the culprit of other people's problems, so you should not correct the situation if you do not have such a desire.

It is equally important to remember that the manipulator "hunts" only for his own benefit. The one who is manipulated, as a rule, remains disappointed or hurt in something. Do not allow unnecessary reasons for disappointment and discontent to appear in your life.