Signs that indicate a possible imminent divorce

In order to maintain happiness and love in the family, a couple has to work on their relationship all the time. Compromises, mutual understanding, interest in the partner's problems - all this helps to smooth out the rough spots and make life happier. But this does not always work. Are there signs that indicate that people are moving away from each other and the prospect of divorce is looming on the horizon? Psychologist Maria Kurt spoke about this and how to fix the situation.

"The main sign that a couple is about to break up is separation. How can you tell that this is happening? There is less trust, time spent together, desire, sex, joy, and heart-to-heart talks in the relationship. Partners distance themselves from each other, are immersed in their own concerns, problems, children, anything but the relationship as a couple. Separation is always about avoiding unresolved issues within the couple, accumulated conflicts, omissions, tension," explains psychologist Maria Kurt.

When should you worry?

Signs of distance and that the relationship will soon end do exist. They can manifest from one partner to another, or from both at the same time, and they are:

- Lost sex and passion. Lost warmth, closeness, desire to hug and kiss.

- Disgust for the partner, hostility, indifference.

- The desire to make up for the lack of these emotions in another. Infatuation with another person and the inability to openly talk about it with your partner.

- Increased irritation. Accumulated grievances and unspoken claims, silence - this is suppressed aggression, which manifests itself in irritation.

- Loss of common goals. Partners stop talking about joint plans. Thinking or talking about the future - the plan is about yourself, not about the couple.

- The desire to spend less time together - to stay overnight outside the home: with friends, at work, with relatives.

- A feeling of relief when the partner is not around. The desire to separate or live separately.

- There is nothing more to talk about. You don't want to talk or discuss anything. You have lost common interests, attention to your partner's opinion, respect for him as a person. He no longer inspires you.

- Lies. People who were once close no longer talk about their feelings, there is no sincerity between them. They hide, keep silent, are afraid to show their vulnerability, which is why they close themselves off and become even more distant.

- Aggression has appeared in the relationship: breaking dishes, waving their hand, shouting.

- A feeling that everything is meaningless, fatigue from problems arises. Lack of sufficient strength and desire to solve them. Exhaustion, it seems that there are more problems than resources to solve them.

- Lack of support for the couple, meaning or support, a common goal - why continue to be together and go through crises? This goal can be a common business, children, a dream to move. And a psychologist or an older loving relative who can be trusted can become support and support.

What will help change the situation for the better?

In the process of personal development, people constantly face crises and conflicts. This cannot be avoided, because a conflict of interests is always about the development of a system in which it is necessary to tune in to external reality again and again.

It is always important for a couple to focus on maintaining contact with each other. To notice impending developmental conflicts in time and resolve them together. Agree and talk, maintain warmth.

A new crisis can be any situation: the birth of a child; a new job; moving; repairs; a changed appearance; the emergence of other interests; different desires that contradict the old system of agreements in a couple; financial problems; troubles at work; a personality crisis; grown-up children who have left home; death of relatives; an emergency. In fact, there are enough temptations and problems in life, but focusing on your partner, his feelings, needs will help save the family.

The best option would be to contact a family psychologist, where during sessions a competent specialist will help the couple understand their problems, understand each other and improve their relationship.