What gets in the way: psychological obstacles to starting a family

Starting a family is considered one of the most important stages in the development of a person's personality, one of the most important steps in his life. But not everyone (especially in our time) decides to take this step. Getting married, having a child - these events imply not only happiness and a valuable feeling of having someone to support you, but also some obligations, a readiness for changes in life. In this regard, some people voluntarily refuse to start a family or are simply in no hurry to do so. Business coach, ICI master coach, sexologist Victoria Koroleva spoke in more detail about what prevents a person from creating a happy, strong family on a psychological level.

Low self-esteem

"Feeling unworthy of love and attention prevents you from building healthy relationships. Research shows that about 30% of people suffer from low self-esteem, which negatively affects their personal relationships," says Victoria.

People with low self-esteem may feel like they are not good enough for their partners, which leads to constant doubts and anxiety. As a result, they avoid deep emotional connections to avoid possible rejection.

Traumatic experiences from past relationships

"Emotional wounds and mistrust of new partners can be overcome by giving yourself time to heal after a breakup. Research shows that 60% of people who have experienced a painful breakup need professional help to recover. Past failed relationships can leave deep scars, causing a fear of repeating the pain and disappointment in a new relationship." According to the expert, this often leads to emotional isolation and mistrust of potential partners.

Fear of changing your usual lifestyle

The fear of losing freedom and independence can be overcome by finding compromises between personal interests and the interests of a partner. About 25% of people are afraid of changes associated with starting a family. "People accustomed to a certain lifestyle may fear that a family will require too much time and effort, which will negatively affect their career, hobbies or personal interests. These fears can cause resistance and reluctance to enter into a serious relationship," the psychologist explained.

Psychological obstacles to starting a family require awareness and work on them. Using self-analysis, professional help and support from others will help overcome these barriers and create a strong family. According to statistics, couples who seek help from family counselors have a 30% higher chance of successfully starting and maintaining a family.