Shadow of the Past: How to Know Your Man Can't Get Over His Ex

You entered into a relationship with a man, and at first everything was great, but in conversations he constantly mentions an ex-girlfriend, which has already begun to irritate you a lot... How to understand that your chosen one still has warm feelings for the previous object of love? Tells psychologist Eugene Lee:

Too fast.

Your romance is developing rapidly. A couple of days later he already declared his love for you, a week later he asked you to move in with him... Why the rush? After all, it does not always indicate the ardor of feelings. There are two options: either he, following the proverb, like a wedge (desperately trying to forget the ex), or is trying to humiliate wounded ego "success" in a new relationship (if the initiator of the separation was not him).

Memories

Every now and then he talks about his ex, parsing the nuances of her character and appearance, her mistakes and shortcomings... "That's a red flag. Maybe he sees you as a 'friendly vest' who has to tell him, 'You were right, it's all her fault. Or the man has a lot of resentment against his ex. This is also bad - his resentment will interfere with the development of your relationship.

He is too slow.

He doesn't introduce you to his friends, he doesn't try to make you a part of his life in other ways, arguing that "it's too early," "we have to wait. These are just excuses and justifications.

He compares

Are you tired of the endless parallels being drawn between how you do things and how his ex did the same things? No wonder. When you hear "She used to..." don't try to become like her, to resemble her. You are you. And you are unique. Noticing that between you and your partner is a shadow of his past love, do not try to get out of your skin to "save" loved one from future disappointments. This is the function of the psychologist.